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Monday, January 10, 2011

Opinions

I've always been an opinionated person, but not necessarily confrontational or overly emotionally attached to my views.  I do my best to not place judgment or treat anyone with views different than mine with disrespect. I expect the same from others.  As we begin making decisions affecting our baby boy, we have been faced with opinions that differ from ours and I'm having a hard time reacting appropriately.  It's one thing when someone thinks I'm crazy to be a vegetarian of 22 years because I can't imagine eating an animal or not believe in god, since that's who I am and I'm confident in that - but when someone thinks I'm risking my baby's life by running or considering a home birth, I feel a surge of protectiveness and become defensive.  What I'm realizing is that this is only the beginning of the opinions that will come our way as we make decisions as parents - and I've got to learn to take it all with a grain of salt.  That's all.  :)
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  1. AnonymousJanuary 11, 2011 at 2:14 AM

    Hi Meg,
    As a new mom, I know one of my silly fears is that other parents are secrectly judging my parenting style. I feel so bad because I know I'm always asking about the home birth and midwife. Please do not feel like I am judging you for choosing this way to give birth. I think you are one of the strongest people I know, and all the questioning is more just in amazement that you are willing to do such a natural birth. I think it is so cool of you to even attempt giving birth without pain meds. In no way do I think your risking your babies health to do this. In fact, when Jack gets older he will know how much love you had for him by doing the natural way of childbirth. I just want to say that I am deeply sorry if you feel like I have been judging your and Matt's choices, because they are different then my own. (sorry also at the horrible grammer and spelling, it's now my 3 am feeding and I tend to fat finger). You are such a great mother, please don't allow others to get in the way of that. Kourtney

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  2. MegJanuary 12, 2011 at 4:05 PM

    Kourtney - you certainly inspired this post after our walk on Friday, but only because I was realizing how many people have opinions on the littlest decisions you make as a parent. I know you support whatever decisions we make and I will always do the same for you! :)

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  3. AnonymousJanuary 17, 2011 at 5:38 AM

    Stay strong, Meg! I think it's awesome that you've done all this research on running/exercising while pregnant and natural childbirth so I don't have to! I had no idea you are getting this much opposition, but it's nothing you can't handle. I'm in complete awe of how strong you've been, keep your head up, you're going to be an amazing mother :-) Sam

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